D.H. Lawrence, the literary giant, advised parents and teachers a century ago: “How to begin to educate a child. First rule: leave him alone. Second rule: leave him alone. Third rule: leave him alone. That is the whole beginning.”
At first glance this seems to be the worst parenting advice in the history of written words. And to support that further, Lawrence had no children. However, there are situations in which this radical advice should be heeded: Helicopter parents. Paranoid teachers. Paralyzed administrators.
TIME magazine’s cover story (11-20-09) is a lengthy editorial, worth every bit of the 15 minutes it takes to read, especially if you are a hard-working, highly-committed parent or teacher under the age of fifty. You may not be a hovering, smothering parent or teacher; however, you still might benefit from a good dose of reality about how we — sometimes in subtle ways — over-protect, over-nurture, over-schedule, and over-stimulate the kids in our care.
Sometimes, less IS more, when raising kids to be significant, successful adults.
Give it a read, and please feel free to leave a comment about it below (anonymous comments are welcome). I’ll start it with my own comment.
The Growing Backlash Against Overparenting, by Nancy Gibbs, Friday, Nov. 20, 2009
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